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Mentoring in the Moment

January 20, 2017


Yesterday was a difficult day for me as well as a day that brought me great encouragement.  It was 8:00am and I was on my way to the dentist to have my teeth cleaned.   That is a white knuckle event for me.  I am sure that you don’t care to know why so I will not tell you but it is never the way that I want to start my day.   My hygienist is a friend and lost her mother to cancer this past year.   As she cleaned my teeth she talked of her grief and thanked me for the verse that I had shared with her the last time that I was in. God had used it to minister to her.  I didn’t remember sharing a verse with her but was so grateful that she had been blessed and encouraged.

I then had lunch with a friend and we spent a couple of hours talking about our lives, struggles, sons and just enjoying being together.  Recently while I was in Cuba I bought some Cuban cigars for my friend.  One of the things that he said in his thank-you note to me was “your words of affirmation and sharing God’s  word with us are more important and valuable to us than I can possibly communicate”.   This was a powerful statement to me and a reminder of  some valuable lessons that I continue to struggle to learn.

Lest you think that I have figured out the secret of controlling my tongue, I want to assure you that I have not. It was only a few weeks ago that while trying to be funny I deeply hurt Peggy with my words.  I cannot even begin to tell you the number of times that I have hurt another because I was quick rather than slow to speak.   Proverbs 29:20 asks “Do you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him”

I have spent a bit of time reflecting and jotting down thoughts from my day.

  1. What I say comes from what is in my heart.  It is so important that I build God’s word into my life.  I cannot share the word of life with others if it is not central to my life.  Luke 6:45 “The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.”
  2. Discipling/mentoring others does not have to mean that I meet with them every week.  Sometimes it is simply an encouraging word that points them to Jesus.
  3. If we are abiding in Christ we will often not know the times that we are a blessing or help to others.




Wichita, KS

I am a devoted follower of the Lord Jesus Christ. I aim to lead a life worthy of my Lord with the utmost humility, to please him in every way, to bear fruit in every good work and to continuously grow in the knowledge of God.

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“Disturb us, Lord, when we are too pleased with ourselves; when our dreams have come true because we dreamed too little; when we arrived safely because we sailed too close to the shore.

“Disturb us, Lord, when with the abundance of things we possess, we have lost our thirst for the waters of life.

Disturb us, Lord, to dare more boldly, to venture on wider seas where storms will show your majesty; where losing sight of land we shall find the stars.”

—Prayer of Vice Admiral Sir Francis Drake