“How are you today,” I asked. “Fine, and you”, he replied. I truly wanted to know how he was and I wanted to tell him that I was doing great as well. More often than not a real learner will ask us the very questions that we are asking them. Questions give us the opportunity, even the privilege of speaking into the lives of others. Asking great questions is a way to serve others. This skill should never be used as a way to manipulate but as a powerful tool to help us help others. We must remember, however, that our motives must be to serve.
As you are helping others to grow in character and competence there are always going to be questions that we want to answer for others. The challenge becomes how to lead them to ask me the right questions? One way to do that is to ask them the questions that I want them to ask me.
What are some of the other benefits of asking great questions?
- It helps me to think critically
- It can strengthen relationships
- It can build trust
- It encourages me to be a better listener
- It can protect me from making mistakes
- It can lead to innovative ideas and new discoveries
- Helps me to think about what is important.
- Identifies me as a learner.
- Opens the door for me to speak into the life of another.
Questions are an amazing tool that may allow us to share the very things that we believe ought to be shared in any given situation. At the very least, by asking good questions we are encouraging the recipient of our questions to think about the things that we believe are important for them to think about.