“Do or do not. There is no try”
Hebrews 13:7 “Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.”
Years ago I was meeting with a friend who lived overseas. He told me of the book “Where there is not Doctor” and said he wished someone would write a book called “Where there is no Mentor”. Though not a book, perhaps these suggestions will help.
- Spend deep and intentional time in the word of God. I recommend Rick Warrens “Personal Bible Study Methods”.
- Learn how to ask great questions – of our spouse, children, peers, etc.
- Make it a habit to read biographies. As you read ask the same questions of their lives as you are asking of those around you.
- Look to the examples of the lives of those around you. You can be mentored by both the negative and positive examples that you see.
- Circumstances – in order for this to be an effective tool in our toolbox we must develop the are of asking the right questions.
- Go to conferences.
- Keep a journal of lessons that you are learning.
- Mentor others. As Christ followers we are commanded to make disciples. The prayer and preparation of preparing to help another will also serve to develop you.
Not having a mentor is your choice. “You do not have because you do not ask”. What price are you willing to pay to find a mentor: money, time, energy, vulnerability. How much are you willing to spend for books or conferences? How far are you willing to drive to meet with someone who is willing to help you? How hard are you willing to work to dig into the Word of God?